So I thought I'd share our current plan for 2011, in terms of IF.
Until we get a BFP:
Jan: test CM, pay attention to position, mucus and pH. No preseed this month, since we want to measure my native pH levels.
Feb: keep trying. Potentially pause acupuncture, depending on Jan results. Potentially take Mucinex, depending on Jan results.
Mar: keep trying. "
Apr: Vacation in Taiwan. Keep trying.
May: IUI (I want to wait until after such a big vacation, because of traveling stress and the huge time change - I'm not great at 12hr time changes, it will potentially really throw me off). Will do acupuncture during IUI.
Jun: Another IUI.
Jul: Another IUI?
Aug: Adoption time. Local or international, we're not sure yet. If we do International, we are thinking of Haiti. Much research needs to be done in this area, I know basically nothing still.
So, that's the plan! Hahahha. We'll see how things really go - I know plans are never really followed.
We've decided (at this point), IVF will not be for us. For us needing IVF is a sign that we should adopt. I mean, having our own biological baby would be great, but in the end, the goal is a baby, and I'm sure there is a local or Haitian baby out there that needs us. :) I wish the adoption process wouldn't take so long, part of me thinks we should kick it off now, but I still have hope we'll be able to conceive.
This probably isn't such a popular viewpoint, but we feel needing IVF maybe means that we were meant to adopt. I mean, there are lots of little Haitian babies out there that could use homes (I think? Excuse my total lack of adoption reality at this point.), how do you know if you should adopt them, unless your hand is sort of forced? In general, I don't really live by 'it was meant to be' type statements, but in this case, it is such a big deal.... my rules bend in that regard. This would be a way of seeing God's plan for us, I think.
Why is IUI different than IVF? Because it is easier and cheaper - I am aware of the irony, it is still certainly assisted reproduction. Because it will jump my potentially busted cervix, which I did to myself, there was no divine plan there.